NEW CONFIDENCE : Boost Your Self Confidence, Self Esteem & Social Skills Confidence
Alain Wolf · Social Skills Consultant
A confident, occasionally repetitive teacher walks you through a genuine day-by-day system for building confidence, not just hype.
Alain Wolf structures this course as an eighteen-plus day sequence, each lesson pairing a short concept with a same-day exercise. The arc moves from foundational habits (daily baby-stepping toward discomfort, paired with a reflection ritual) through targeted "hacks" covering language, focus, physiology, and self-judgment, before widening into social-specific material: eye contact, voice projection, approaching strangers, and managing the fear of others' opinions. The day-by-day format gives it a workbook feel rather than a lecture series, which suits people who want to practice rather than just listen.
What actually gets taught
The strongest material sits in the early days. The two-question reflection habit, asking what went well and what could improve after each small action, gives learners a concrete alternative to rumination, and it is specific enough to actually apply rather than just nod along to. The "green glasses versus red glasses" metaphor for selective attention is a serviceable, if simplified, way of explaining confirmation bias in everyday language. Later lessons get more mechanical and more useful for socially anxious learners specifically: looking at someone's eyebrows instead of their eyes to fake steady eye contact, projecting the voice as if the listener stands a meter further back, and noticing whether a sentence's pitch rises (seeking approval) or stays neutral (signaling ease). These are the kind of granular, physical adjustments that separate this course from purely motivational content.
The "50 percent rule," the idea that any interaction is only half within your control, recurs as the connective thread across several days, tying together fear of judgment, people-pleasing, and social approach anxiety. It is not a novel concept, but its repetition across contexts gives the course some internal coherence.
Where it falls short
The delivery is conversational to the point of meandering, with the same points about low self-worth and negative self-talk circling back across multiple days without much new depth added each time. Several lessons rely on anecdotes about the instructor's own transformation from shy teenager to confident coach, which set an encouraging tone but occasionally substitute for evidence or nuance. The course also leans on unverified claims (referencing "many studies" without citation) and pop-psychology framing that will feel thin to anyone who has already encountered CBT-based confidence work.
The exercises themselves are genuinely actionable, calling a friend to practice eye contact, writing a hundred "I'm awesome because" sentences, recording your own voice to check intonation, but the course rarely explains why a technique works beyond a surface-level nervous system or evolutionary psychology explanation. That is fine for a beginner audience wanting quick tools, but it caps how much insight a more experienced learner will extract.
Overall this is a serviceable, occasionally repetitive confidence-building toolkit best suited to people early in working on social anxiety or self-doubt, delivering enough concrete daily practices to justify the time even if the underlying theory is thin.
The standout
The 'what did I do well / what can I do better next time' nightly reflection ritual, because it replaces self-criticism with a repeatable, evidence-based confidence-building loop.
What you will learn
- A two-step daily process for building confidence: baby-stepping actions plus a reflection ritual asking 'what did I do well' and 'what can I improve'
- How to reframe negative self-talk using short, repeated confidence statements said with vocal intensity
- A perceptual reframing technique (the 'green glasses vs red glasses' filter) for noticing opportunities instead of threats
- Practical body-language and voice tools: projecting your voice, controlling vocal intonation, and an eyebrow-focus trick for maintaining eye contact
- A '50 percent rule' for detaching your sense of worth from other people's reactions in social interactions
- Techniques for reducing approach anxiety, including immediate action and redirecting attention to lower fear responses
Best for: Someone with genuinely low self-confidence or social anxiety who wants plain-language, actionable daily exercises rather than psychological theory.
Skip it if: Anyone who already has a working understanding of CBT-style reframing or public-speaking coaching, since much of the material restates common self-help ideas without deeper nuance.